Relationships can be challenging. Friendships and dating both have various obstacles that can make them difficult.
Oftentimes, there can be misunderstandings between people that create problems between them.
When one person interprets something incorrectly, the pair may fight or get into an argument, causing a rift in the relationship.
To fix this, make sure you always say what you mean and be confident in what you’re saying. If you lack confidence, your words may be toned down and mean something you didn’t intend for them to mean.
Confidence and knowing what you want to say boost what you’re trying to communicate in a way that makes the message clear.
Although you may say what you mean, there are times when what you iterate is not understood.
When someone feels a certain way, another person may not understand it because they see the situation in a different light.
This causes issues because the interpretation, not the message, is all
wrong, making the situation complicated.
One of the only real remedies to not understanding how someone feels is empathy. Put yourself in their shoes and try to understand what they are feeling.
Empathy and seeing it from their point of view may help to defuse tension in the relationship.
Sometimes, though, there is no way to fix this problem because feelings are very complex and difficult to see when it is not something you personally feel.
Therefore, not understanding another’s feelings is a problem that can’t always be solved. But, if you try hard enough and care about the relationship enough, talking it out may help.
Unfortunately, there are times when people stab you in the back as well.
These are instances that need to be dealt with individually. The severity of the injury caused by the backstabbing dictates what you should do in response to it. If it is severe enough, then one should cut the ties and be done with the person.
However, if the injury is minor, there is no need to eliminate the person from your life; you simply have to reprimand them in a way you see fit.
This reprimanding can come in the form of not speaking with them for a time, not trusting them with confidential information anymore or not letting them have an influence on your decision-making. The choice is yours, but the message is clear: if you’re going to stay friends with someone who hurts you, make sure you don’t let them do it again.
A relationship is like anything else in life—you have to work at it to make it work. The issues that can be problematic are almost always able to be overcome.
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