Vitality in loving yourself, all else follows

Have you taken a good look at yourself in the mirror recently? Do you start your day feeling confident? Or do you go through your day spreading a negative vibe like you can’t achieve anything?

Most of us have gone through times where we have felt self-conscious about something or someone.

People spend too much of their lives fighting for someone else’s approval. They’re too busy worrying about what the next person is doing.

What people need to be doing more is appreciating themselves.

We are all capable of great things. We all have a lot to offer to someone, whether that be a significant other, an employer or someone really close to you.

At times, we fail to notice because we are often told the bad things and the flaws about us; this causes us to focus on them and forget what is actually good about each of us.

First thing is to look at all of your good characteristics.

I have a question for all you readers. How many of you had actually said to yourself “I love myself?”

I honestly think that no one in our generation can even say that to themselves. Why not? You loving yourself is a sign that you are happy with yourself. It’s a sign that you love yourself and what you’re good at, and you are working to change your flaws to make yourself a better person.

The problem is, they don’t give themselves enough credit for all the good qualities about themselves, then they fall short in relationships with other people because they are too self-conscious with a flaw that they have, or are in fear that they present that flaw to the other party.

I had a friend like that. Well, many friends for that matter. They always looked at stuff in which they didn’t excel, such as sports when they would lose a game against someone and didn’t take pride on what was good about themselves.

Over time, society has taught us to judge our own selves and always think of the negative sides of things.

Loving yourself is the first thing you should do in life.

Say you’re looking for a relationship. If you don’t love yourself first, then how can you possibly expect anyone else to? You can’t wait around for someone else to love you first. You first have to love yourself.

We all say that we’ll love ourselves when we find that special someone, when we lose weight or when we land that super cool job.

Stop waiting. It shouldn’t be until then, it should be done now!

It’s not selfish to love ourselves. It clears our minds so that we can love ourselves enough to love other people.

We can really help the planet when we come from a space of great love and joy on an individual basis.

It’s all true.

Love is the binding agent that holds the whole Universe together.

Love is a deep appreciation for something or someone.

When I talk about loving yourselves, I mean having a deep appreciation for who you are. We accept all the different parts of ourselves—our little peculiarities, the embarrassments, the things with which we may not do so well and all the wonderful qualities, too.

First steps to loving yourself: Look at yourself in the mirror each day and tell yourself that you are a wonderful human being, and don’t leave your room until you do. Next, explore the good qualities in yourself and find interests based off of that. Last, try to ignore negative thoughts that you or others may put into your head.

There are some cruel people in this world and on this very campus. Take it from experience,I know.

There’s a lot of people on this campus who will grin in your face and tell you how much they value you as a person, only to find that they stabbed you in the back in exchange to be loyal to someone else.

At the end of the day, you have to love yourself, because you never know if anyone else will.

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