Asking for help doesn’t make you a damsel in distress

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I wouldn’t classify myself as a damsel in distress by any stretch of the imagination, but sometimes I do need help.

For example, on the way back to school from my boyfriend’s house this past Monday, my car, or M. Night Shyamalan as I fondly refer to him, starting acting odd.

M. Night is no stranger to strange noises, but this one was so loud I had to pull over … and ask

for help.

I went to a rest stop and approached a truck driver. Did I ask him what was making the noise? No.

Did I ask him to look under the hood and provide his semi-expert opinion? Close.

I asked him to pop the hood.

Okay, yeah I did pull that little “pop the hood” lever by the steering wheel — I knew that much. However, once I popped it, I couldn’t find the little latch to fully get the job done.

The trucker laughed at me. He didn’t giggle, chortle, smirk or anything resembling the aforementioned reactions.

He laughed.

Guess what? I’m a pretty funny person — most of the time when I don’t mean to me. I’m used to being laughed at.

At least I asked for help. Who’s laughing now?

People are socialized to be self-reliant. It’s a dog-eat-dog world out there and if you don’t keep up with the pack, you’ll get trampled.

We all have pride, and to some extent, I don’t think it’s a bad thing. It’s good to proud of yourself and hold yourself to some degree of excellence.

However, don’t let pride or the fear of appearing vulnerable keep you from asking for help when you need it.

Think about the last person who asked you for help — whether it was someone asking for directions or how to do something

at work.

You felt good about yourself, right?

You didn’t feel badly for that person in need or think any less of him. You helped him, he thanked you and you both

moved on.

We’re told especially in the workforce to take the initiative. Do what’s expected of you without having to ask.

Why can’t we ask?

Our teachers, bosses or anyone with power over us were appointed to help us.

How is anyone supposed to learn anything new if they don’t have the courage to ask?

No question is a stupid question.

It’s stupid not to ask if you don’t know the answer to something. You’ll just be seen as purposefully ignorant.

Next time you’re driving and your car sounds like it’s going to either explode, or project you from the vehicle, ask for help. Approach that lonely trucker at the rest stop, swallow your pride, and ask.

Okay, you might get laughed at if you ask how to pop your hood. That’s Driving 101. Who cares? We could all use a little more laughter in the world.

You’re not a damsel in distress if you ask for help, but you could be a damsel in dispair if you don’t.

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