My 85-year-old grandmother unexpectedly passed away last week. I have experienced a range of emotions in the previous days. I was (and still am) saddened, angered and puzzled as to why her life came to an abrupt ending.
As I was returning to Bowling Green from Rochester, New York in my car, I had over six hours to think about the great times my grandmother and I had spent throughout my life.
I remember sitting at her kitchen table when she made the greatest macaroni salad ever (too much mayonnaise is a no-no). She was also a renowned baker.
I also remember and laugh when she would call me ‘J.P’ as I somewhat resembled ex-Buffalo Bills quarterback J.P. Losman with my longer hair in my face (who knows, maybe I can throw a tighter spiral and throw a couple touchdowns).
One of the best memories I have of her is when I was younger. As we were driving one day, a school bus passed with kids sticking up their middle fingers. I asked my grandmother what that meant, she told me, and proceeded to flick one right back. I smile every time I think about that story.
But my grandmother was someone special. She was one of several family members who taught me to appreciate what life offers and take nothing for granted.
During Family Weekend, I hope students can think back and reflect on all the people in their lives who care for them, regardless if you have relatives visiting Bowling Green or not.
The next two or three days should be a bold reminder about the people who truly care about you.
Families are the cohesive unit that get you through yesterday’s crisis, help you cope with today’s problems and are there when you have to face tomorrow’s consequences head on.
Ultimately, families will stand up to any adversary in front of you. They do it not because of necessity, but out of love.
And, I hope, you will show some love back this weekend.
Family Weekend is short enough where it would be nearly impossible for parents to embarrass you (emphasis on ‘nearly,’ depending on individual cases). But it’s also long enough to give students a much needed reminder of who really cares about you.
Everyone can afford to give up one weekend for some meaningful family time. While it might be more fun to spend the night with friends, the significance to be around loved ones is a feeling like none other.
If for no other reason, spend time with your family now because it will be harder – and maybe impossible with death – as you get older. Cherish every moment.
Even if your family will not be able to attend this weekend, take two minutes out of your busy life and forget about any recent arguments.
When they say ‘hello,’ respond back with, ‘I love you.’
It will mean the world to them.’
