The world of dating can be rather complicated and for some it is more complicated than for others. It starts with finding someone you are interested in.
Many times, we are so busy with our lives that we forget we can find someone anywhere, especially being in college. We have so many opportunities that we should not force ourselves into situations to find someone. I met my girlfriend of more than a year at a mutual friend’s birthday party. There was no previous mention from anyone on trying to set us up. We found a connection through similarities and through differences.
Differences can help spark a greater connection in a relationship. You can gain something if you and your potential significant other have differences. Before my girlfriend and I started, I had little contact with knitting, however she knits all the time. It was the same with her when I introduced her to photography. Having these differences has given us something to talk about. This allows us the opportunity to learn from one another and share a deeper important part of ourselves. When there are differences in a relationship, a couple must remember that compromises will have to be made.
Compromising means not having to be right. In a relationship, there has to be an internal balance. Finding common ground and balancing power can make both partners in the relationship feel wanted. My girlfriend and I make most of the decisions together when it comes to what we will be doing for a date or just spending time together.
One important compromise is balancing time spent together and with family and friends.
To have a strong relationship, you need to find a balance between the relationship, family and friends. Diving too fast into spending every waking moment together puts a burden on the relationship and can cause just as many problems as not spending any time together. My girlfriend and I balance our together and individual time with date nights and allowing one another to have time with our families and friends. Having a balance will allow you to remember the important parts of the relationship.
With longer-lasting relationships, remembering why you started dating or why you fell in love with your significant other can be the difference between staying together or drifting apart. Find a way to keep these memories fresh in your mind. For me, I remember the day we met and how easily it felt for me to make a connection to her, which is something I cherish to this day.