Take time to make friends in new places

Reporter and Reporter

Let me gloat for a moment: I am so blessed with awesome friends!

I have amazing friends at school and home, and this makes it difficult to leave one place because I do not want to stop hanging out with one set of cool people. But, it is easy at the same time because I know another set of equally cool people awaits me on the other end.

I can honestly say I do not know where I would be without these people in my life.

Probably in some corner, rocking back and forth all sad and stuff. Ok maybe that is extreme and paints a weird picture of emo me thinking ominous thoughts, but at the same time I cannot imagine life without them.

I have said this before, but I’ll say it again because repetition is not always a bad thing — in fact it really helps me to remember.

I want to thank God for the friends he has put in my life. They are such amazing people who fill me up with joy every time I am with them.

I want to remember right now when things get tough. I want to remember right now when these people move away and I do not see them as often.

I want to remember right now when I say things like “Why does this have to happen to me?”

Friendship is a gift from God. Plain and simple. If you don’t have awesome friends, then you need to get some (Sorry if that is harsh, but I must be blunt).

Think of it like a job at first. You have to put yourself out there and hang out with a bunch of different people and basically hold interviews to figure out what kind of person is worthy of your time because it is valuable.

Then spend a ton of time with the ones that make the cut, and soon it will feel organic and it will only get better exponentially from there.

Do not stop until you have found the people that get you — I mean all of you, every part from that stupid human body trick to your obsessive love of awkward dancing to techno music (that one’s too specific so you know that’s what I’m about).

Have awesome friends because if you do not, trust me, you are missing something incredible.

I am from Connecticut (insert comment, ‘Why the heck did you come to Bowling Green?’ here).

I came to the University because it was cheap, because they had an organization called Young Life that I could get involved with and because the University showed interest in me. With that said, the first few months here were tough. I went from being a big shot in high school, playing three sports, to sitting in Anderson Arena for orientation not knowing a soul. Hero to zero.

I wanted so bad to transfer to a school back east. I wanted to be somewhere where I was known again.

But I decided to stick it out, and I am so glad that I did because I met friends that have my back no matter what, friends that get me and would take a bullet for me.

So my advice for you when you are in a new place, whether it’s a new college, a new town for a different job or whatever; give yourself time to adjust.

And give the people in the new place a chance to change your life, because it happened to me.

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