You know what sucks?
Long distance relationships.
OK, maybe two hours isn’t long distance. But to me, it feels like it is.
I feel like a lot of people understand where I am coming from. I mean, after a long day at school or work there are just some days when you want to come home and cuddle with your significant other, have some drinks and watch a movie. But you can’t.
I dealt with a long distance relationship before. But that was only for three months, when my ex was in Kansas City for an internship and I was in Sandusky working at Cedar Point. It was a 13 hour drive and an hour time difference. After the summer, we were reunited because we both attend the University.
I always told myself that I would never date a guy from home while in college because I didn’t want to deal with a long distance relationship while at school, since the year is nine months instead of just three months during the summer.
But look at me now.
Don’t get me wrong. I love my boyfriend. He makes me feel like a queen and I am happier than I ever was.
But with the stress of senior year, there are a lot of nights that I come home and I want to curl up in bed with my boyfriend.
I can’t, though.
We text all day, every day. We talk on the phone every night. We FaceTime a couple of nights a week [I’ll admit, it is usually just so I can see his adorable cats].
We see each other once every week or two. He comes and visits me on his days off and I am so grateful for that.
Sometimes it doesn’t feel like enough. My heart aches when he isn’t around. It can be hard to sleep once he leaves because I got used to him sleeping next to me.
Our relationship is so much stronger, I think, because of the fact that we are apart.
We trust each other completely. We may joke about having secret significant others but we aren’t serious. I know he wouldn’t do anything and I would never dream of hurting him [or anyone else, friend or significant other] for that matter.
We are still in the “honeymoon phase” and both love and cherish the time we spend together.
Being apart from my boyfriend, as much as it sucks, is really good.
It is good because it makes our relationship stronger and it makes us not take things for granted.
Looking back on it, I wouldn’t change a thing.
The distance makes me that much more excited to live with him one day.
I guess what I am trying to say is, don’t trust yourself. If you tell yourself you want to stay in Ohio for the rest of your life, apply for a job outside of the state.
You just might be surprised with the outcome.
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